Slamat Hari Raya!

I loveeee Eid! Absolutely in raptures for it. Which Muslim don’t?

Time2 mcm nilah aku teringat zaman kecik2 dulu. I have such a great childhood! When I think back on those days….rasa syok sgt! I still miss those days. Now, lots of things dah berubah. My Kak long is already married! My parents are worried about getting me married. Siap nak cari ustaz kat aku nih! I told my mom: ”Mak tak risau ka angah kahwin ngan ustaz tu? Nanti kang setiap kali angah buka mulut nak bagi opinion, dia tuduh angah nusyuz. hahhahaha.” 

 

My extreme opinionated self is legendary in the family.

 

My younger sisters have their own love lives to think of…

 

Everybody’s grown up! Become much wiser…and raya means something else altogether now. Something beyond new clothes and good food.

 

But the innocence of childhood is sorely missed.

 

Time beli baju raya:

As a younger sister, I looked up to my elder sister a lot (Kak Long, hang jgn nak kembang ok! Notice that the format of the sentence is in past tense. huhuhuh)

Sebab kitorang 5 org adik beradik, mak aku slalu bawa aku and kak long dulu pergi beli baju.

“Mak tak mau aih bawa ramai2 pi kedai meneru-meneram mcm mak itik tu!”

The thing is, because I looked up to my kak long soo much….semua baju yg dier pilih, baju tu juga yg aku nak. hahahah. DId u stil remember how exasperated you were at me, kak long? Soooo funny, bila aku pk balik.

 

I guess, it was because I felt that none of my kak long’s choice could be wrong. That her choice must be the prettiest, the best, the most eye-pleasing of all, that her judgment must be faultless. (that is not to say that I no longer think so, Kak long. Let’s just say that now that I have grown up, I felt a lot more confident about my own taste and I am able to form my own opinion about what’s best for me.)

“Ok Kak ngah, skarang hang ckp betui2 hang nak gown kaler oren ka, kaler hijau?” Kak Long tengok aku dengan pandangan separuh bengang.

“Hang nak yg mana satu?” My seven year old self shot the question back to her.

“Aku nak kaler oren.” Kak long ckp.

“Hmm….aku pun nak kaler oren.” Hahahhah.

 

“Fine, aku amik kaler hijau.”

 

“Aku pun nak juga kaler hijaulah!”

 

Hahhaha. Now, I understand why I was such an exasperating child.

 

Ada sekali tu, my Kak Long said very hotly at me. “Hang ni boleh dak jgn asyik nak ikut aku? Apa yg aku pilih, yg tu juga yg hang nak. Sibuk betoi!”

 

Pedih telinga aku dengar. Tercabar pun ada sikit. Nak kata tak kecik hati tu, bohonglah. But yes, after that, I have learned to be content with my own choice. It took a lot of self-monologue for me to convince and tarbiyah myself into making my own decision and forming my own opinion.

 

So Kak Long, hang jgn nak berleter kt aku kalau aku keras kepala. It’s partly your fault about the way I have turned out to be.

 

But the take home message is: younger siblings always look up to their older siblings. I guess, Kak Long, you’ve been a great role model for me. You are a very successful ‘Kak Long’ for all of us and I could never assume that kind of responsibility ever. 

 

And byk jugalah isu2 lain time beli baju raya.

 

“Mak ni tak adil! Awat baju wani (adik bongsu) sampai 4,5 pasang. Baju angah 3 pasang ja?” Whoa! At that time, it was a huge issue for me! Nak merajuk pun ada.

 

At that time, Wani baru 3 tahun cam tu.

 

Mcm2lah bermain dlm kpala otak aku nih. Mak ni tak sayang kt aku kot! Mak ni pilih kasih! Mentang2 lah aku ni anak tengah. Mak sayang kt kak long ngan Wani ja!

 

“Lar, baju wani tu murah2 ja, sebab tu lah mak beli byk sikit. Baju budak2 brapa duit ja.  Bolehlah, kalau angah nak, mak beli baju angah kat pasal malam. 10 pasang pun mak boleh beli. Mau?”

 

Baru aku tersenyap.

 

Bila aku dah masuk high school, aku dah matang skit. Dah tak der isu sgt dgn baju2 raya ni. Whateverlah…apa yg mak aku pilih, yg tu lah yg aku pakai. Until now, my mom chooses my baju raya and I am content with whatever she has chosen for me.  Her tastes, to me, is faultless.

Time layan tetamu:

“Weh, hang pi basuh pinggan plak. Asyik2 aku ja yg kena! Hang sedap2 ja duk rilek2.”

Yes, housechores was another isu yg timbul di hari raya. Especially time aku darjah 5 cam tu…sebab time tu Kak Milah dah kahwin and we didn’t have a maid for two years.

 

“Awat mak asyik suruh angah ja buat air. Kak long tu? Dari pagi sampai petang (aku exaggerate) angah tak henti2 duk wat kerja.”  Mulalah aku nak rasa mak aku tak sayang kat aku. kahkahkah!

 

And then my mom would say,”Ok tak palah…biarlah mak buat semua. Hangpa semua duk ja rilek2 goyang kaki. Kalau dah semua org nak berkira, biar mak buat semua.”

 

My mom is an expert at reverse psychology.  Bila dia cakap cam tu jer…Zaaap! Terus rasa bersalah tak tau nak habaq! Aku pun pandai2 lah assume a guilty expression, and terus pi dapur. Lepas dah buat apa yg mak suruh, terus aku pi masuk bilik cari my other siblings untuk dileteri habis-habisan.

 

“Hangpa ni semua melampau! Ingat aku kuli ka? Skrang turn hang buat kerja, awat aku plak yg kena!” Hahhaha…tu lah kata2 yg famous semua org akan cakap. Baru ja minta maaf pagi raya…lepas tu gaduh balik.

 

Tapi semua tu berlaku time aku darjah 5, darjah 6 cam tu….by the time aku dah besar skit, benda2 ni dah tak der hal. Semua org dah tahu role masing2. Basically role kitorang senang jer. Whatever it takes, just jgn kasi mak aku naik angin ngan kitorang. Kitorang dah tak der nak kompelin mak ni tak adil ke apa ke.

 

Semua dah matang. 

 

Skrang dah tak der dah nak gaduh2 di hari raya. My Kak Long kat UK with abg Faiz…I just hope my sister tak buli abg Faiz. wakakak.

 

And I am here kt Aussie…been 3 years now.

 

Tahun depan, iA, Izati pun akan raya kt New Zealand.

 

 

No more face-to-face sibling fights that coloured my childhood years. Just shared stories and laughter over the phone and occasional gossip over the YM. Sometimes, even that is a rare occasion. We keep abreast of each other’s life with constant blogging.

 

Life goes on. But I will always look forward to the time when all of us can gather together again. Can’t see that happening in another 5 years time.

 

A good thing is worth all the waiting in the world.



8 Responses to “Slamat Hari Raya!”

  1. baju ry, t-shirt2 dlu sume akak aku yg bli..

    skang dh besa nih mcm xdek je baju ry

  2. before anything: aku geram sgt koz aku dah taip pepanjang kat comment ni tapi tetiba tak leh publish and then all my beautifully written words vanished!!!!!

    first: aku gelak sampai berair mata (dahlah kat ofis, i was giggling like a mad woman)…whatever that u wrote, was first class FUNNY!

    aku tak brapa igt pasai gaduh warna baju tu, but boy…i kinda like the idea that u look up to ure elder sister greatly (note that it is “look” not “looked”). tapi yg paling vivid adalah housework chores….x abih2 ngungkit..hahah..tapi time depa (zati dgn alida dgn wani….lgsng tak yah wat apa…) kitalah yang asyik mengharungi “zaman gelap”; depa dah zaman renaissance dah…dahlah duit raya pun up 100% taun ni…terkejut aku..tapi macam biasa ayat ayah setiap kali nak bagi duit raya kat kita:
    “sepuluh ringgit ja sorang”….tapi bila bukak….fuuhh.. juling sekejap biji mata….

    im going to cl u smetime within dis week (nak beraya-rayaan …wish bagai + gossip terkini hiburan sensasi)..nak call weekdays rasa cam hang ni bz sgt..so weekend ni ok!!!!

    ciao bella! selamat hari raya; maaf zahir dan batin! btw, dah dpt kad raya yg cute ittew????

  3. Kak long,
    aku rasa melampau tul duit raya depa taun ni! (jeles, jeles)
    mentang2 lah kita dua org tak dak, byk pulak depa dpt duit raya.

    Ur so rite about zmn gelap tu…aku rasa cam aku ngan hang ja yg byk wat kerja. Lepas kita pi asrama, tiba2 ada org gaji pulak! Haiyooooo!! Can u see the pattern? Aku lah anak yg rajin itu! Bila aku tak dak ja….mak sampai kena cari org gaji. hahahhaha.

    Weh, this weekend, call hari Sabtu. Hari Ahad aku iA travel to Canberra. huhuh. Tak sedar diri dah nak exam…hehehe. AKu tawakkal jer…

    I haven’t got ur card yet, by the way…and I havent sent yours….later, kay! AKu kan bz. huhuhu.

  4. wei kaklong kakngahhh!!
    tau dak..hari tue mak mrh gak ar..
    sehari sblm raya! ahahahahahah!
    kmi smua xturun dapor..
    mak dok masak puding trifel tue..
    pastue mak panggey smua turunnn!
    mak dok berletiaq cm besa laa..
    dok kata anak buat nyok tuee sket pnya baguihh laaa…
    rajinn tlg mak dia kt psar bla bla blaa..
    ang tau ak, aku ngan zati gelakkkk tgh mak dok berletiaq tue!
    ahahhhaha bkn sja2 nk gelak! tp rsa cm lawakk..
    aku tau laaa mak berletiaq mnda seriuss…tp nk tergelakk jgak..
    sb dri dlu mak dok ulang ayat tue jaa!
    tp xpa laa..last skali kmi tlg gak mak kt dapor..
    pagi raya kedua pon aku bgn awai tlg mak buat laksa…
    (smbil tue mak dok puji laaa kaklong n kakngah pndai masak dok kt negeri org!!)
    helllloo!! kakngah, ang dlu kt umah pon bknnya rajin masakkk!!
    p aussie jaa terer sniri! kaklong pn sama..
    tnggu aku p newzealand pon aku tererr msak jgak!
    lgpon tme aku kt sana, zati pon dok tnggu aku..
    so, xdak mslh ar bab mknan neyh! mak suka kalottt..
    (aku kna raya setaun lg kt mesia!!) mak dah bg warning kt aku..
    ujung taun neyh cuti dok umah kna blajar masakk! mannn!!

    weyhh lg satu..
    ampa dua toksah dok komplen duit raya kmi byk k!!
    mustila maju! takkanla tiap2 taun dpt duit raya yg sama jaa..
    100 tue kuar drp tgn aku cm air jaa!! (org jb)
    wakakkakakakakakakakakak!!

  5. Aku dah agak! Kalau aku tak dak ja….musti mak nek angin ngan hangpa yg malaih ni! Cubalah hangpa mencontohi angah hangpa yg baik nih!! I may be the most garang in the family…but I am also the kindest kan! huhuhu.

    Mesti hangpa semua rindu kt aku! hihihi. Jgn nangis ek!

    Mak still duk compare kita ngan anak penjual nyok tu? Hahahha. That is soooo funny!

    Aku ingat lagi, aku pernah cakp cam ni kt mak, “Mak ni, semua tak boleh! Mak kawan angah tak kisah pun depa nak pi mandi air terjun.”

    And then mak ckp, “Ok, pi lah jadi anak mak kawan hang tu.”

    Hahahhaha.

    Moral of the story is: Mak boleh compare kita ngan anak org len. Tapi kita jgn compare mak dgn mak org len. huhuhu. Syurga itu di bawah tapak kaki ibu. So…jgn bagi mak marah2 lagi! PAHAM!!!

  6. perasan! kak ngah yg baek..???huwaa huwaa.. jatuh ayaq mata aku tup tup tup…tp mmg kt umah mak keja puji kak long ngan kak ngah jaa… aku ngan alida xlrt dah nak dgq tau…

    hahahha…aku rasa mmg tradisi la kena mrh sehari sblum raya…mcm dah kena sumpahan…mmg dah agak pun akan jadi… =p pastu bila nak maaf2 esok tu rasa awkwrd laks.. tp seb bek tak lama sgt…sbb mak lebey emotional sbb tak raya ngan kak long n kak ngah yg duk kt ngara org… kira dah cover la hal tak turun dapoq tuuu…heheheh (skrg aku lak rasa mak lebey syg depa…aku????) hahhahaah

    weh kak ngah, ang ingt dak dulu2 kita gaduh smp mak kasi kepala kita dua ‘kebaaboo’…urs hit mine, mine hit urs.. ahahaha mmg panahan yg sgt memeritkan! hahah.. masa tu rasa mcm nak lari dari rumah jaa…ni sumer ang nyer pasai…suka cari pasai ngan aku… i dnt rmmber wot we were bickerin over, tp ang kn mmg suka cri psai ngan aku…n gelaran ang kt umah ialah ’singa’…. kimba the white lion…!! :D

    hehehe…tp sumer2 tu skrg rasa lawak laks.. sweet memory..bgus gak jadi jht2 dulu2 sbb skrg leh tringat balik…kire aku xnyesal sgt la tak turun bwh aritu sbb nnt bila aku umur 30 thn kita leh bncang lg…nak dak?? alida?? ang stuju dak?? hahahaha…

    n yes…psal det raya tu….zmn skrg 100 mcm 10rgt zmn dolu2..kira ok laa…ampa jgn jeles2 noooohhh..zmn ampa dah lepas….bak kata kak long zmn renassiance skrg dah bermula…ntah2 wani nnt det rya dapat 300 sbb dia sorang ja duk umah…haa…mmg renassiance to the power of thousands!

  7. hahhhaha.

    Aku mcm ingat2 lupa kpala kita kena laga.

    Lawaknya!

    Aku ingat yg aku kena kejar dgn mak. Time tu kita kat Taman Serindit. Aku lari keluar rumah…pastu mak tak larat nak kejar so mak biar ja. AKu plak takut nak masuk umah balik, aku duk kat taman sebelah rumah kita tu. Huhuhu. AKu rasa hang pun ada skali kot, zati. Ka Alida ntah? Tapi basically, time duk kt taman tu mmc2 plan nak lari rumah ada! Kita bincang mcm mana nak lari, nak makan apa bla bla bla….sooo funny!

    Hang ingat tak kita naik basikal dari Mergong and then kayuh sampai kat superstore nak beli raket badminton. Lalu jalan raya, empangan jajar etc. Wakakakka. Lepas mak balik kerja….kita kena rotan.Alida punya pasai la sebab dia pi tepon mak report pasai kita. Bongok tul!

    Tapi tak pa….at least, kita dpt men badminton petang tu. hahahhaha.

  8. woii! aku risau kt ampa laa sb tue aku tepon makk!
    mna nk cri adik cm aku kt doniaa neyh??! (ayat mak kalo mak msak sdap)
    lawakk laa! aku smpai terkeluar ayaq mata bca smua neyhh!

    haaa raya aji neyh jgn dok turun dapor lagi!!
    biaq kna marahh lagi! bleyh gelakk!
    pastue ayah pon cm phm2 jaa..
    hhhmm!
    esok2 dah towa kita teringat mnda neyh bleh crita kt anak2 kita..
    cm cumill jaa mak dlu2..
    uwekk@!!

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