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Hahaha promoting the video that a bunch of Malaysian student did last year!

It was the best fun that I have ever had so far. As a medical student, having fun is very very limited in space and duration. So…when Dr. Charles Douglas made it compulsory for all of us to make a video regarding one particular ethical issue, we were quite excited to show what we had up our sleeve.

When Dr. Charles Douglas told Kak Y in his e-mail that he loved our video, we thought he was just being nice. But on the ‘video presentation day’ when all video were being presented, he mentioned at the end of the event that ours was one of his three favorites. I feel proud as a Malaysian.

“I also like the video of the girls holding cards…” ayat yg aku ingaaatttt sampai sekrang because I was so proud when he announced it kt lecture hall.

And furthermore, another video from a bunch of another Malaysian group also got voted for top ten best video to be evaluated for the final prize. The Naughton group did really well….it was really funny and entertaining. It was really a historical moment when we showed to the rest of our batch mates that Malaysian rocks! My suggestion to the Naughton group….up load lah video korang kt you tube!!! hihihih

I don’t think the mat sallehs thought our video would be good enough compared to theirs. Maklumlah, org mesia ni senyap2 jer….low profile jer. So, to me, it was an accomplishment.

Why I like my video?

- We are the only group that did not argue against doctor-patient relationship. Instead, we are more critical in our evaluation by saying that in certain circumstances, it’s ridiculous to ban doctor-patient relationship. Other groups yg buat pasal isu ni, all of them were against this sort of relationship. Kitorang jer yg think ‘outsude the box’, so to speak.

-I think, yg tu sebenarnya yg buat Charles Douglas suka video kitorang. Bukan sebab video kitorang ni canggih sgt….but because we reaaallly analysed the issue and not just skimmed through the issue on the surface.

-I also like the fact that we showed them another way of thinking. In front of the whole batch, we let them know that relationship and sex doesn’t always have to co-exist. One can happen without the other. It can go in both direction…you can have sex and not having any relationship at all (think one- night-stand). On the other hand, you can have a perfectly good relationship without sex…this relationship ends up in marrigae, and there’s no sexual exploitation whatsoever. I don’t t think our mat sallehs batch-mates had ever had a chance to really see it that way before. And I was glad that we had the opportunity to point that out to them.

- And we also questioned about the myth that ‘one can lose objectivity in evaluating one’s patient when one is in a relationship with the said patient’. It’s ridiculous! As we have pointed out in the video, it was not like we did not have any protocols and therapeutic guidelines in managing terminal illness. And as for dealing with non-terminal illnesses, no decent doctor would have lost her/his objectivity…and if he does, his license should be taken away regardless of whether or not he or she has had a relationship with his/her patients. It should be taken away because the doctor must have been an idiot to have lost his objectivity in dealing with headaches and rhinitis and so on!

-And of course the real reason I like that video is because….that video is mine! Me and a bunch Malaysians put lots of effort in it….we invest our time (our study time) doing it. Perah otak mcm mana nak compete ngan mat salleh…. emotionally drained juga sebab takut video ni inferior compared to other people. So when it turned out all right…rasa sgt bersyukur! Rasa best. It was like a message to our batch-mates: Yeah, maybe kitorang nampak senyap dlm tute…maybe kitorang nampak cam lembik, like we don’t have any personality, but actually we do. We just don’t show our fun side to just anyone! We are exclusive!!

Hahahaha!

Now in third year….batch kitorang dah berpecah-pecah. Sebab bila masuk 3rd year rotation dah lain. Suhaila masuk rotation lain…aku dengan Balqis jer sama rotation tahun ni. Budak malaysian makin sikit…so nak ke tak nak kena juga make an effort untuk beramah mesra ngan mat salleh. So ada juga mat salleh yg dah tahu bahawa budak mesia ni fun to hang around with…it just that we don’t open up to just anyone. Trina and Chantelle selalu cakap kt aku that they can’t believe I could be so cheeky and naughty. Roseanne pun cakap “since when are you the trouble-maker?” (sebab aku challenge Aydin kt palliative care tutorial. She was surprised I spoke up against Aydin’s atheistic comments). Aku cakaplah, “I have always been like this. ” Diorang yg tak kenal aku and so they think aku yg berubah.

But I still miss the previous two years when the whole batch stayed together. Yes, skrang lagi byk kawan mat salleh….tapi aku tak derlah rasa benda tu penting sgt pun. I like familiarity and familiar faces. So, I reallly miss the good old days. The days of making the videos, especially.

Tu pasal smalam aku belek2 gambar dlm laptop…terjumpa video lama. Tiba2 idea gila datang. I turned to my roommate and said…

“Apa kata kita upload video ni dalam youtube?”

And we did.

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